Tuesday, May 27, 2014

When the Phone Doesn't Ring

It's been months since Mom has called
her home phone number
I have been putting off
disconnecting the service...just in case
hoping every morning
she will give me a call again
to say hello, to complain
it's hard letting go
of so much
I might have to put it off
a little bit longer


Jacque. said...

Whatever makes you feel the best is what you should do. xo

WoolenSails said...

I know it is hard, but if it is just basic service, I would keep it, just in case and you will have the peace of mind, knowing it is there, just in case.


Cindy said...

I can relate to this. My mom used to LOVE talking to everyone on the phone. Not only has she not called in months, but I recently had to turn the ringer off on her phone as she is at risk of falling trying to answer the phone. Now I can't call her. Makes me sad, but so far I've kept the phone.

Dirty Martini Queen said...

I had this conversation with my MIL last week and I told her that she needs to do what feels right for her now. There is no timeline out there to follow along and help you make decisions so follow your heart. Sending hugs out to you.

Kim said...

It was very hard letting my Mom's phone go, but after several months I did as she could no longer recall anyone's phone#. But it was hard, I cried a lot, Mom loved talking on the phone, we talked everyday, several times a day...... do it when you are ready too~~~

Kim said...

There is no rush. Do these things when you are ready. It is a difficult process to let go of what was normal. The "new" normal changes every day. Allow yourself time to grieve each new change.
Moms been gone 3 months and I still will not allow anyone to use her teacup. There's no logic to it, I am just holding on to it.

~Backroad Treasures~ said...

My heart broke reading your post...I remember those days w/ my mothe-in-law and my own mom....its hard what life deals us....many blessings, you will know when the time is right.....

Miccosukee said...

Kelley, We are in the process of having our 91-year-old parents give up some of the activities they are used to doing. First, we took Dad's keys away from him. Next we got Dad to agree that Mom and at least one of us needs to know what their financial situation is. It's baby steps right now.

If you can keep just the basic phone service, try to keep it on for a bit longer. Even if your Mom doesn't call it, there are people out there who now that number as hers. It might be the only way some will learn how she is doing.

But you are the ony one who will know when to shut it off. Warm hugs to you !!