Sunday, April 10, 2016

It Got Bad

 
 
We had such a good morning and early afternoon...for some reason after church Mom got into a terrible mood...by the time they called me a few hours later she was yelling at everyone, kicking at the doors and windows...going into the kitchen to look for a knife...
 
It did not improve when I got there...the nurse called the Dr to request am IM injection to calm her down...but in his infinite wisdom he decides she needs to have a psyche consult first...I'm sure that will go over well with her dementia and distrust of new people...
 
 
She had thrown her pills and water, refused dinner, kicked at her friend, slapped anyone wanting to comfort her...and told me I was going to hell and she hoped she never saw me again...
 
 
I hid around the corner for a while...after a few hours she agreed to go to bed...but no meds...
 
Change was in the air today...my sister has been out of town a few days, a different nurse than usual,Mom's roommate passed away this morning, a different aide was there...all little things adding up to her breakdown...
 
Fortunately the night nurse and aide are well known to her so she let them take care of her...while her outbursts are infrequent, they have been increasing...I dread ever having to move her to a different facility...

12 comments:

Rugs and Pugs said...

I am so sorry, Kelley. That is such a horrible disease and I believe the family suffers more than the patient. I do hope mom calms down and tomorrow is a better day. She is so lucky to have you.
Hugs,
Lauren

Mary A said...

I have just been through this. Only look towards tomorrow. Don't look further down the road than that. Your mom will be better tomorrow after she has worked her fear out. Dementia is a demon disease. You are doing great. All will be well.

Jacqueline said...

Prayers and good wishes coming your way.

marly said...

I'm sorry to hear this. It has to be so upsetting to you. But you're probably right about all the things happening to change her daily routine, especially her roommate passing. I hope they move someone she is familiar with in with her and not a stranger. Wishing her a good day tomorrow.

audrey said...

It sounds like too many changes too quickly. So sorry for the bad day. Wish this never had to happen to anyone, her or you.:)

moosecraft said...

So very sorry this happened... too many changes, especially with her room mate passing... today will be a better day... hugs!

Angela Tucker said...

Kelley, I am so sorry. Please remember that this is not your mom...it is the disease. I agree, too many changes in one day.

My father's dementia is more advanced, he does not speak and is bedbound, but we still strive for consistency. He eats at the same time each day, we shut off the lights at the same time every night. I can tell when he has a new person to do his bed baths, he is just "different".

My heart hurts for you. This is a long and difficult journey.

Mr Puddy said...

Kelly, I'm sorry. I do agree with Angela Tucker.
please be strong.
my thought is with you.
prayer & purrs for things is getting better
hug

The Eveningstitcher said...

God Bless you both, Kelley. Such a hard, hard journey through life some of us have to bear. Keep strong....your devotion to your mom is such an inspiration to those who have not traveled yet this road...God be with you...

Kim said...

Oh Kelley, this is such a heart breaking post to read. I'm so sorry for both you and your Mom. I do believe they know more than we think at times and just no longer have the ability to process it so it comes out in those bad ways. She had a lot of changes to her environment in a short time. I hope she is doing better today and smiles the next time she sees you.
I do know what you are going through.
Hugs, Kim.

WoolenSails said...

I am so sorry things went wrong, changes are the hardest with dementia.

Hugs
Debbie

Jacque. said...

xo