Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Mom


it's been a time for Mom lately
her anxiety level goes through the roof in the afternoon

she's been getting violent
needing a Haldol shot twice this week
which I believe her anxiety overrides

there has been a change in her meds recently
which I feel is hurting her
we are working with Hospice and Dr to find a solution
I am even more of a wreck than she is

the administrator of the facility wants her gone
like yesterday

told my sisters I will quit my job
to stay with her if I have to
not that I can remotely afford it

but no way 
can I let her be moved to another facility...

18 comments:

marly said...

Sorry to hear this. Holding on to hope that the Dr. will adjust the meds and the change will help her.

WoolenSails said...

Doesn't the facility specialize in Dementia?
I think your mom has always been strong willed, she may be forgetful but her personality is still there so it makes it harder. I would think they would have special therapy for her to help with coping and the right meds for her. I hope things improve and you can find a better solution for her. I have done home care, but she had around the clock care, that is too much for you to take on your own.

Debbie

Nancy D. said...

Oh…my prayers are with you and your dear mother as you search for a solution...

Jacqueline said...

I am so sorry to read about your Mom. I hope things mellow out for both of you.

annie said...

Bless your hearts, hugs!

Kim said...

Oh I am so very sorry this is happening to you. Two months before my Mom passed, they tried to move her to a remote facility 2 hours away. I threw an epic tantrum in the hospital and refused to allow it.
My only option was to take her home which I said I would do. They were required to allow me a few days to arrange for a hospital bed to be delivered home etc. I was applying to take special leave from work. Once they realized I was seriously, magically a bed opened up in a facility in our town. I know how hard this all is for you. But we are the only voice our mother has and we have to do what we feel is best. I don't know all your situation and am not suggesting any course of advice for you. But know you have friends and support from all over. You are a wonderful daughter and your mom is so very lucky to have you looking out for her

Karen Larsen said...

I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. It's so very hard when parents become old and infirm. I absolutely LOVE the rug you made her. You're a wonderful daughter.

HomeSpunPrims said...

Prayers for this situation for both of you, Kelley. I hope there can be some help somewhere. I know you will do what you have to but I'm afraid that quitting your job and staying with her would be too much for you my friend. I know these decisions are very hard. You are doing the very best you can for her. She is blessed to have such a daughter as you. Love the rug you made for her. Love & hugs, Lori

Angela Tucker said...

I am so sorry, Kelley. It is hard. I've had to decide whether to retire or stay with my dad...at this point, I just can't. I know in my heart I would become bitter and ugly. So, I keep working and pay people to stay in my home with my dad while my husband and I are at work. A very expensive option, but my decision. You will come to your own decision...what is best for you and your mom. I will keep you both in my heart...

Rugs and Pugs said...

Prayers for you and mom.
xoxo
Lauren

Patti said...

Sending up prayers for you both!
Blessings, Patti

Julie - My Primitive Heart said...

Dear Kelley,
Please know that I will keep you and your mom in my prayers!!
Big Heart Hugs to you both~
Julie xo

Jacque. said...

Thinking of you and your Mom...xo

janie said...

Hope they get your Moms med straightened out. The liver is so sensitive as we get older. Wish the medical field would understand.

Good luck and sending hugs, Janie

TheCrankyCrow said...

I know I commented somewhere previously (on FB?? Who knows...I think I'm the one with an infirm mind these days)...so I won't repeat what I said. Please know, though that you and your mom are in my thoughts and prayers. I still struggle with not having my mom here at home with me...but, physically (and emotionally) I am not equipped to give her the care she needs...and, ultimately, it would not lessen her discontent...as it would not be HER home that she remembers.... Your guardian angel rug turned out wonderfully...and such a befitting symbolism at this point in time... Hugs ~ Robin

Carmen Sutton said...

Hope they are able to get her leveled out I know how hard it must be for you, she is very lucky to have you by her side.

C Reeder PhxAz said...

Specializing in a legal field that deals with elder care issues my caution to you is to step back and think hard before doing anything drastic. You have to take care of yourself so that you can assist in her care as well as maintain your sanity. Having your home to yourself as your quiet spot is crucial. That being said you are in my prayers. This is so very hard and no simple solutions either. Every persons situation is different. These are paid facilities to care for precious loved ones and they need gentle reminders of that from time to time! Keep us posted and know we are all here for you.

Rebecca Noland said...

I'm so sorry your mother is struggling with anxiety. I know this may not work but I have read that weighted blankets help people with anxiety. Just a thought. HUGS <3
Becky