so I won't ever forget...
a couple of things from the last few days with Mom
I stayed overnight with her
holding her hand each time she raised it from the bed
something we've done for years now
only leaving for a few hours
to feed the cats
inject some meds
while my sister stayed with Mom
Thursday she had a high temperature
even while on antibiotics
so we knew
she didn't respond to us
other than opening her eyes
early Friday was so much better
she even shooed away the male aide
from Hospice
when he arrived to care for her
with think she associated him with the Hoyer lift
she talked with us on and off all day
on returning that afternoon
I woke her up leaning over to kiss her
oh the joy on her face
when I said hi Mom
she kissed her hand
then placed it on my cheek
for a few days she refused anything to eat or drink
except a few Lifesavers
later that day I was sitting there
eating my gummy bears
when she said I sure was chewing a lot of gum
I told her no, that was Judy
I was eating gummy bears
immediately her right hand went up
she ate one and was satisfied
she was happy to sit up in bed
watching the Andy Griffith show
she even drank some butter pecan Ensure
just some general chit chat after that
lots of I loves yous...
Saturday morning we knew our time was short
the Crossroads Hospice team was phenomenal
I can't say that enough
*****
my NC sister and her husband will arrive in a few hours
we'll just putter around my yard and house
catching up on chores and weeding
tomorrow we're all going to lunch together
my local sister and I have decided to
start with a clean slate
it's what our parents wanted most
all their girls to be friends
we think that she waited to leave us Sunday morning
until she knew we would heal our relationship
just one more loving gesture from Mom
*****
your words and prayers have touched my heart
filled me with love and hope
I am only sorry I can't hug you all in person
